Thanks all. I have done the transmission mount recently, along with the lower ball joints so I don't think those are the issues. It could be the motor mounts, those just aren't cheap. I'm kinda wondering if I have a bent rim, although I did have the wheels road forced balanced and everything came out fine. Ugh

 

I had about 3 slightly bents rims on my car due to DC potholes. This gave me some light to moderate vibration at highway speeds. I replaced to of the which i keep on the front and i have almost no vibration at all. Vibration is very faint probably due to the one bent rim still on the car which will be axed shortly. What i do get is engine vibration from overdue motor mounts. I did the trans mount which did take away some of it. I'm sure once i do the main two there will almost none at all. I'm really leaning towards replacing the front struts just to get the ride close as possible to stock. At 190k, they are not taking bumps and such like it used to. The rear will be tended to after the front. The replacement of my tie-rod ends, ball joints and sway bar bushings really did wonders to the overall feel of the car but now it seems the steering shaft knuckle or something needs replacing. Theres a weird knock/clunk type of noise when i only lightly rock the wheel back and forth. Ii hear it on the inside of the car.

 

That clunk noise is a lower control arm and bushing. Its not the easiest repair but doable. Crawl under and check the knuckle busing. If evident oil or cracking is leaking from that, you can try just replacing the knuckle and busing. Buy one that is OEM and already has the bushing pressed. Its three bolts and requires a good torque wrench and some muscle to break them free prior to installation

 

Lower control arm bushing will also cause wheel shaking while braking and at speed.