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Own a 2010 Lexus gs 350. I like playing music on my iPhone 4S with the original USB cable. When I plug in the USB cable all the songs show up in the navi screen. When I want to go through songs I cannot go thru it by using my phone I need to change it by using the touch screen I'm guessing and it responds Very slow!!! I can't change the songs or even skip it it takes a good 10-20second just to play the next song or go down that I can search the song I'm looking for. Maybe I'm doing something wrong but im not sure. Also drove many infiniti's and BMW they work really good and respond really fast. If anyone would help me out i will appreciate it.
Also after doing a quick google search many people recommend connecting the iPhone via Bluetooth to play songs, how would I do that? I know know to turn Bluetooth on and use it I have it connected for phone calls on my Lexus but to play songs I'm not really sure how to do that.
Thank you!