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Old 09-19-15, 03:59 PM
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Now and then we go out with another couple and the female infrequently finishes her drinks. This irritates us because some of the restaurants where it was our treat, these glasses of wine are in the $10+ mark. We'd both been discussing that we feel it is rude to the host that she orders a drink and leaves it. How would you approach a situation like this with her?
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Old 09-19-15, 04:05 PM
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I would say in a joking manor as they are leaving" gee not going to kill of the awsome liqure that's alcohol abuse" lol start at least being nice at first. And ask if they would like something different before you start
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Honestly, if she orders multiple drinks and leaves some wine in each of those drinks I would be a bit annoyed. But, if it is here only drink I would not be worried at all, as different people have different tolerances. She could be just having a single wine (the way I am reading your post is that she is only ordering one drink) to not spoil the mood and in that case, I commend her.

Think of it this way, you go out for drinks with friends and everyone but you orders water. What fun killer that is, what is the point of going out for drinks.
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Old 09-19-15, 06:29 PM
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whether you're treating them or not, if they choose not to finish a drink shouldn't irritate you. it's just not a big deal. and some people just don't like to drink much but enjoy a taste of it. if you feel part of $10 was wasted but you had a good time with friends, then it's a small price to pay.

i never pay any attention to what people order when i'm paying because i'm there to enjoy myself, not agonize over who is ordering what.
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Old 09-19-15, 10:52 PM
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^^ Agreed. You're there to enjoy an evening with friends; don't keep a running tab, just relax.
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If it is just one drink, I would absolutely not worry nor say anything.

On the other side of the equation, perhaps she does not really like to drink and ordering one drink and leaving some of it is her way of not trying to be rude to you by instead ordering a Coke or water.

I don't drink all that much anymore, I find it difficult to not offend someone who actually likes to drink when I order a non alcoholic beverage.
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Old 09-20-15, 12:48 AM
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Originally Posted by LexsCTJill View Post
I don't drink all that much anymore, I find it difficult to not offend someone who actually likes to drink when I order a non alcoholic beverage.
This is what I was trying to say.
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Old 09-20-15, 01:38 AM
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Don't worry about it if she orders one or two glasses of wine. If you're out for a nice dinner, then you are being a jerk by making a big deal of her not drinking her wine. Perhaps she is a lightweight and just doesn't want to be awkward around you when you can down two glasses of red wine and maintain, while she would be stubling off her chari with two full glasses.

Now throw some hate down her way if your mission is to get drunk with this person and just have a great time. If you order her an old fashioned or a vodka martini and she takes 2 sips, then orders another drink, well then throw some shade on her.
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Ok... We figure she is fickle. She tells us she wants to drink, we plan and she goes conservative. On a request we brought her a nice bottle of sake for an evening and she took one sip and that was it. A prior time on her own she'd gone out and did sake bombs with two bottles and accompanying beer. Her fiance tells us she does drink and in quantity. We'd told her what the event was, she relays yeah, I'm looking forward to drinking, how much she likes sake...etc.

We've come to recognize the pattern with her and figure she's going to order drinks and not finish them. She'll order a couple through the course, take a sip or two then let the table server take it away. The server will ask if the drink was acceptable seeing the glass is 60-70% filled. She insists that it is good. The ironic part is if the tab is on them, she's finished the drinks. Oh well.
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If it bothers you so much don't offer to treat.
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Old 09-21-15, 12:11 AM
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LOL yeah, we could do the same in return by not finishing. Anyways, it's done, I get the drift.
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my gf is the same way. i'll get her something and she usually only finishes about half the drink (on rare occasions she does finish the whole thing). i usually just joke around with her and i never let good alcohol go to waste so i finish it myself if she doesnt.
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Simply point toward the wine glass at the end of the evening and say next time "No More Grape Jucie For U Capeesh!"

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Originally Posted by LexsCTJill View Post
If it is just one drink, I would absolutely not worry nor say anything.

On the other side of the equation, perhaps she does not really like to drink and ordering one drink and leaving some of it is her way of not trying to be rude to you by instead ordering a Coke or water.

I don't drink all that much anymore, I find it difficult to not offend someone who actually likes to drink when I order a non alcoholic beverage.
Is it normal for people to be offended if you don't order an alcoholic beverage when you go out to dinner? Or is this just when specifically going out for drinks.

I def wouldn't want to offend anybody...but at the same time I'm mormon so.....I really hope I've not been putting people off and they've just been keeping quiet about it...
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Do you get equally annoyed if someone does not finish their food?

Don't sweat the small stuff.
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