General Car Conversation 2025 - Part 2
I'm very glad I own my home. Vegas was a much cheaper city to live in when I moved here than it is now. I bought my home in 2018, refinanced in 2020 at 2.8%. The cost of living here is going up a lot, but my housing costs locked in. I pay just $1200/month when you include the escrow for taxes and insurance. Renting a similar home would be a lot more expensive.
At the crux of it its an argument that just doesn't make sense. Owning a house vs renting doesn't keep you from being able to invest, and you don't have to put a lot down on a house. Your home is not only an investment, it is an investment but thats not even the most important thing that it is. You can't live in an mutual fund, and outside of owning a home there is just no way to have security in your housing situation or control over your situation. If its just me thats one thing but with a family and pets etc, no thanks. I don't want to get a notice in the mail that I have to move in 60 days as a 43 year old man with a family lol. My BIL and SIL just went through this, they sold their house because he started a business and they needed the cash out of it. Now they are renting ay $7k a month in a big house in NJ. They just went through hell with the owner who suddenly decided he wanted to sell and they had to find another 5BR house with room for all of them that would take their dog in their school system with 60 days to do that and they wound up in something not ideal because of time constraints and what was available and lost their pool and have no yard or outdoor space which they loved. No thanks.
At least when you purchase a home some of what you are paying is coming back to you in equity when rent is 100% cost, and you've got a property that will go up in value over time if you own it long enough, and you have housing that is completely under your own control. You can paint it and modify it however you want, get whatever pets you want, and you can't be rolled out of it. Renting an apartment from a complex is different than renting a home from some landlord who might be great, or might not be great. The bigger thing for me is now I have another whole family who's needs and decisions impact me and my family. Pass.
If you get relocated and have to move, just sell it. If you have to take a loss, take a loss. Or keep it and rent it out if the numbers make sense to do that. Not a big deal.
At least when you purchase a home some of what you are paying is coming back to you in equity when rent is 100% cost, and you've got a property that will go up in value over time if you own it long enough, and you have housing that is completely under your own control. You can paint it and modify it however you want, get whatever pets you want, and you can't be rolled out of it. Renting an apartment from a complex is different than renting a home from some landlord who might be great, or might not be great. The bigger thing for me is now I have another whole family who's needs and decisions impact me and my family. Pass.
If you get relocated and have to move, just sell it. If you have to take a loss, take a loss. Or keep it and rent it out if the numbers make sense to do that. Not a big deal.
Like I said earlier, buying a house is usually a good financial move, but it's not always a win or big win.
There are still areas within the San Jose metro area though where you can buy a house that doesn't cost over $2M. Thats the median, there are many cheaper homes thats my point. Even with rent being cheaper, that still doesn't mean I would have any interest in renting a house for all the reasons I have already laid out. I don't want somebody else having the final say in my living arrangement, I want to be in control of that myself. Whether that is more expensive or not.
Sometimes it's not about what you want to do but whether it's feasible to do what you want to do and still keep your current interests/values.
We have owned fare more houses than you have and certainly know the values of having a home when it works. I'm not against house buying. But what I'm trying to say is buying a house is not always a win when compared to renting. It's not a beneficial solution for everyone/every situation.
Of course you can always take a loss and get out or rent it out. Sounds so easy, doesn't it? Take my friend case for example when the house peaked at 1.8M and now hovering at 1.5M. If someone got in during the peak time and now needs to get out, can s/he just swallow 300k? Can s/he rent it out? Can s/he afford this and another mortgage? Not so easy or even feasible, is it? You said you have a family to look out for. Sure add that to the picture. Someone like you for instance just lost a job and now will have to look for another job elsewhere. How is it going to work out now? Your kids used to go to a good school/district. What to do now? Move to a cheaper area/school district?
Again, if that person has bought a $1.8M home they should not be in a position where they immediately cannot pay for it as soon as they lose their job. Plus, if they rent they would have a lease they need to break and they wouldn't be able to get approved for another rental because they have no job. So...what are they going to do?
I come across these scenarios all the time as I do this for a living. We just went through all of these layoffs in the DC area and lots of people even though they have been laid off aren't desperate to sell their houses because they don't have to be.
I'm sure you can find cheaper places in that area but I don't think you know the bay areas and living condition there.
Sometimes it's not about what you want to do but whether it's feasible to do what you want to do and still keep your current interests/values.
Sometimes it's not about what you want to do but whether it's feasible to do what you want to do and still keep your current interests/values.
Bringing it back to cars, its not unlike leasing vs buying. To me leasing for the monthly payment when you can't afford the higher monthly payment of buying s problematic. But, I don't dislike leasing the same way I dislike renting a home because as long as I pay I am in control. If I don't want to give the car back I just buy it. What I don't like is somebody being able to tell me I can't continue living somewhere we want to continue living.
Last edited by SW17LS; Sep 4, 2025 at 12:16 PM.
100% 1111GS. The home that we just sold in the Bay Area would take, assuming normal parameters, well over 15K per month to service, probably closer to 20K. Were we to rent it, we'd likely have been able to get around 6K to 7K in rent. We could depreciate the home for tax purposes, with obvious future capital gain consequences, plus we'd still be on the hook for taxes etc. And the buyer of our home is now paying around 30K in property taxes when we were paying around 10k because of Prop 13 (we bought that house in 2001). So in our market, the rent to mortgage delta can be huge. Even in the bay area there are only so many people who can service 15 to 20K per month on their home payments and taxes etc. We have friends, professionals making professional incomes, who could not afford to buy so they rented.
Last edited by swajames; Sep 4, 2025 at 12:27 PM.
100% 111GS. The home that we just sold in the Bay Area would take, assuming normal parameters, well over 15K per month to service, probably closer to 20K. Were we to rent it, we'd likely have been able to get around 6K to 7K in rent. We could depreciate the home for tax purposes, with obvious future capital gain consequences, plus we'd still be on the hook for taxes etc. And the buyer of our home is now paying around 30K in property taxes when we were paying around 10k because of Prop 13 (we bought that house in 2001). So in our market, the rent to mortgage delta can be huge. Even in the bay area there are only so many people who can service 15 to 20K per month on their home payments and taxes etc. We have friends, professionals making professional incomes, who could not afford to buy so they rented.
Theres a difference between being unable to buy and not preferring to buy. That was my point. Owning your own home is always better than renting, it just may be that owning it isn't cheaper than renting it.
glad you've got a good situation and you're happy with it. and hopefully you don't have major expenses too often (new roof, new a/c, etc). i find real estate to be more a hedge against inflation than this 'great deal'. besides your great mortgage payment you have property taxes, insurance, maintenance, etc. but yes as the years go on generally real estate goes up, in part because every seller wants to make back the giant realtor fees they'll incur so it's basically a pyramid scheme. until it isn't and we have a market crash. florida right now is seeing prices decline in some areas because the hurricanes made insurance climb a lot in coastal areas, and that condo building that collapsed in miami caused new legislation to pass that's meant all condo owners are being assessed more for unplanned inspections and possible repairs. these large assessments scare off potential buyers. plus if you listen to canadian doom sayers, lol, they're selling their places in florida in protest.
i've no doubt others will be picking up those 'bargains'.
i've no doubt others will be picking up those 'bargains'.also, i know you've said you're 'never' moving, but for many that's not possible and when they have to move, they likely have to pay the same or more than what they're selling (especially factoring the huge losses from selling AND buying realtor fees). yes the whole value might come in handy when dementia begins to set in and you can then pay to go into a home!
Last edited by AJT123; Sep 4, 2025 at 05:01 PM.
When I was young and single I rented. It gave me the freedom to easily and quickly relocate, accept promotions and change jobs. When married and starting a family owning a home made more sense but that's a lifestyle choice. Owning a home can be a ball and chain, or it can provide a sense of security and stability. These are dependent on the person/family. At this time in my life renting a condo would be fine.
There is far more to how and where a person lives than the display on a calculator.
There is far more to how and where a person lives than the display on a calculator.
Last edited by ChattanoogaPhil; Sep 5, 2025 at 05:20 AM.
Yep, wheelchair-accessible van, looks to be a VantageAbility conversion. This is what it looks like on the other side:

They cost almost $100k new.
They cost almost $100k new.
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